The importance of honoring ourselves first

One of my recurring lessons in 2018 was around boundaries.

I arrived in a place where I realized that in order for real evolution and growth to occur within my life, I would have to dig in and set some boundaries for myself.

Certain boundaries were very personal: getting real with myself about habits, behaviors or mentalities that continually amount to self-sabotage in some form. Resolving to get out of my own way, especially by letting go of certain aspects of myself that may feel temporarily comforting, but were ultimately not in my best interest (helloooooo vices…we all got ‘em!). Other boundaries were more focused outward: setting boundaries around friendships, work, creative pursuits. Ensuring that my energy was invested well and reciprocated in a way that was no longer leaving me feeling drained, insecure or hurt.
Setting many of these boundaries cost me friendships, jobs, trips, nights out. But they also saved me from heartache, self-doubt and getting stuck repeating the same patterns that I had been circling for years.

It reiterated the importance of honoring ourselves first, always. Becoming a living & breathing example to others of how to best respect me.
It, of course, doesn’t mean that those boundaries won’t be questioned, tested and sometimes violated, but the more we can root down into the truths and boundaries that are important for us, when we can put our energy towards ensuring our own happiness, safety, and sense of self, it becomes obvious to those around you.